Difference between Perception and Reality
Ok, this might come as a shock to some of you who know me, but, uh, and this is hard to say. Wait, wait, ok, no. This is more difficult than I thought it would be. Ok, here it goes….”T-Shirts are great. But they are not good for every occasion.” AAAAAAAAAH, IT HURTS. OOOOOH, the pain! I must admit I already knew this. I just didn’t care until now.
I’m growing. My inner circle knows me. According to them (not my words), I am a very intelligent, bold, laid-back, fun, driven, funny, charming, stubborn, complicated, emotional, loud, blunt, family oriented, sometimes cold, man with good morals. And I love t-shirts. They are so comfortable. But t-shirts do not define who I am. I didn’t care what people might think when they see me. If they talk to me then they will get to know me. I had to tell someone that the other day. We went back and forth for awhile and she commented on me wearing a t-shirt to class. I told her she doesn’t know me and it is crazy to judge someone because they have a t-shirt on. We went back and forth several more times and then she finally said. “I don’t know you. So all I have to go on is what I see. And my perception is all I have to go on. And all I know is you wore a t-shirt to class.” OOOOh, ok, ok, this is going to hurt too. Uh, ok, here it comes. She was…..was…..right. S***, Da**, F***!!! Ok, I apologize but that was hard to say. I’m right 90% of the time. YEA, I SAID IT!!
Perception is very different from Reality. Her perception of me in a t-shirt was that I am not committed to what I claim. Her perception of me is I don’t take things serious. Her perception was her reality of me. Therefore, it didn’t matter I was this great guy who was full of intellect and drive. Her first impression of me was conveyed in one instance because I had a t-shirt on. I still feel it is a mistake to judge based on perception. But I know there are so many people just like her who do. Perception is everyone’s reality upon first sight. I can rebel or I can control their perception.
Pride and ego can get in the way of goals. My goal is to become a successful business owner, successful Life coach, and author. I have to start dressing the part in order to reach the people I’m destined to meet who will help me accomplish my goals. So I will never throw away my t-shirts, but don’t go into cardiac arrest if you so happen to see me in the street on a Saturday and I have a button up on. It’s ok. I haven’t lost it. I’m still the same dude. I’m just expanding my uniform for those who don’t know me yet.