Comments on: There are no good men out here. http://super-extra.com/2008/09/30/there-are-no-good-men-out-here/ Life's Experiences expressed through the Beauty and Coldness of words. Thu, 29 Jul 2010 22:53:12 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 By: InToItTive http://super-extra.com/2008/09/30/there-are-no-good-men-out-here/#comment-14 InToItTive Tue, 04 Nov 2008 06:54:07 +0000 http://super-extra.com/?p=25#comment-14 I am so so very tired of hearing that there are no good men out here. There are plenty, the question is how do you pick your grapes. If you keep going after that same "juicy" looking, rich colored grape time after time you will continue to get the same result. Some women just don't need grapes, rasins are just as good. It gets under my skin when a woman says "he is not my type", I really feel you are going to miss out and you are short changing yourself. So what if he is short and your are 6ft tall. I believe GOD has a great since of humor, your perfect mate may be the total and complete opposite of what you are looking for. And besides just get it out of your head, there are no perfect men. You don't deserve one until you become a perfect woman. Women, we must be teachers. First we must teach everyone we come in contact with, how to treat us. Our men, we like to think of them as strong, stable, Kings, Providers and all that jazz and they are but some still must be taught. Are you ready to love a man? It's a journey. Do you know his past, do you know the relationships he had/has with his mother and his father. This all affects how he will love you. Men are just as emotional as women, unfortunately most do not communicate as well as women which makes their emotions hard to handle and thats why at times they seem so crazy or out of control to us. A relationship is a connection. Connection takes energy. You must work. Some get in a relationship and just relax and think love just happens. People put more work into booty calls than in relationships. Maybe we should treat our relationships like everyday booty calls and wash your ass, do your hair, look happy to see him every once in a while. I know a couple where the wife just come in from work mean mugging him. I can go on and on, but I will end here. Women we must be the teacher and the student which requires much patience. I am so so very tired of hearing that there are no good men out here. There are plenty, the question is how do you pick your grapes. If you keep going after that same “juicy” looking, rich colored grape time after time you will continue to get the same result. Some women just don’t need grapes, rasins are just as good. It gets under my skin when a woman says “he is not my type”, I really feel you are going to miss out and you are short changing yourself. So what if he is short and your are 6ft tall. I believe GOD has a great since of humor, your perfect mate may be the total and complete opposite of what you are looking for. And besides just get it out of your head, there are no perfect men. You don’t deserve one until you become a perfect woman. Women, we must be teachers. First we must teach everyone we come in contact with, how to treat us. Our men, we like to think of them as strong, stable, Kings, Providers and all that jazz and they are but some still must be taught. Are you ready to love a man? It’s a journey. Do you know his past, do you know the relationships he had/has with his mother and his father. This all affects how he will love you. Men are just as emotional as women, unfortunately most do not communicate as well as women which makes their emotions hard to handle and thats why at times they seem so crazy or out of control to us. A relationship is a connection. Connection takes energy. You must work. Some get in a relationship and just relax and think love just happens. People put more work into booty calls than in relationships. Maybe we should treat our relationships like everyday booty calls and wash your ass, do your hair, look happy to see him every once in a while. I know a couple where the wife just come in from work mean mugging him. I can go on and on, but I will end here. Women we must be the teacher and the student which requires much patience.

]]> By: princesswhatevaIlike http://super-extra.com/2008/09/30/there-are-no-good-men-out-here/#comment-9 princesswhatevaIlike Fri, 10 Oct 2008 15:10:23 +0000 http://super-extra.com/?p=25#comment-9 YES, AMEN….Instead of running around crying that he did this, he did that shit….Man and Woman up, look in the mirror and take the blame for what you did…focus on self and fixing self. Don’t be a monkey jumping from branch to branch….take time out and fix yourself before the next relationship. Figure out how to love yourself, because if you don’t know how to love yourself, how will anyone else know how to love you? If you don’t know what like/want/need how can you know if you are getting what you like/want/need in a relationship? If you don’t, it’ll be SAME RELATIONSHIP, DIFFERENT FE/MALE (same shit, different day) YES, AMEN….Instead of running around crying that he did this, he did that shit….Man and Woman up, look in the mirror and take the blame for what you did…focus on self and fixing self. Don’t be a monkey jumping from branch to branch….take time out and fix yourself before the next relationship. Figure out how to love yourself, because if you don’t know how to love yourself, how will anyone else know how to love you? If you don’t know what like/want/need how can you know if you are getting what you like/want/need in a relationship?

If you don’t, it’ll be
SAME RELATIONSHIP, DIFFERENT FE/MALE
(same shit, different day)

]]> By: humblediva81 http://super-extra.com/2008/09/30/there-are-no-good-men-out-here/#comment-4 humblediva81 Thu, 09 Oct 2008 20:13:50 +0000 http://super-extra.com/?p=25#comment-4 I agree with what you're saying. I'm sure there are good men out here. My problem is that I'm too picky! I wouldn't say that I need to lower my standards or anything, but I am very picky. And I can't speak negatively about the women that allow their man to treat them a certain way because I am one of those women. I am single right now, but I have dealt with falling completely for a man and just letting him dictate my every move. I was stuck on the idea of pleasing my man when it should've been about doing me and making myself happy and letting him decide to take it or leave it. I am learning that you should never change for a man as a man will never change for you. The next guy that I fall for is going to have to accept me the way that I am. I agree with what you’re saying. I’m sure there are good men out here. My problem is that I’m too picky! I wouldn’t say that I need to lower my standards or anything, but I am very picky. And I can’t speak negatively about the women that allow their man to treat them a certain way because I am one of those women. I am single right now, but I have dealt with falling completely for a man and just letting him dictate my every move. I was stuck on the idea of pleasing my man when it should’ve been about doing me and making myself happy and letting him decide to take it or leave it. I am learning that you should never change for a man as a man will never change for you. The next guy that I fall for is going to have to accept me the way that I am.

]]> By: DARIO http://super-extra.com/2008/09/30/there-are-no-good-men-out-here/#comment-3 DARIO Sun, 05 Oct 2008 22:16:38 +0000 http://super-extra.com/?p=25#comment-3 THIS IS A TEST THIS IS A TEST

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