There are no good men out here.
I keep hearing this from a lot of women. Let’s see, where to begin? Let’s get some things out the way…There are some men out here who truly never grew up. They are grown boys. They still cling to their toys. They still run around here trying to put their D*** into any and everything. 30-year-old men bragging about how many times they got shot. Proclaiming how many kids they have as if it’s a passage to manhood. “I take care of my kids. My child support is on time every time” as if their child is another bill they have included into their budget. So called men who are such failures in their own lives their only conversation is who they screwed last night. Men who never grew up to achieve anything of their own. Never crossed over to manhood to truly work hard to become a better person. Men who self-esteem has sunk so low in their own lives they violently attempt to control the one thing they have left…their woman. These men are grown boys. The definition of a man has been forgotten and replaced by these sorry examples. So while the statement is exagerated. They do make a good point. It is a sad truth. This statement is the result of the frustration and impatience growing in women because of the ever-growing number of boys walking around here thinking they are men.
But we must all take responsibility of our actions.
There can be no argument there are a lot of grown boys out here who are not worth much. They don’t work. They lay on the couch all day. They drive their woman’s car while they are at work. But how do they get away with it? Too often I hear women ask…why don’t he get off the couch? He had the car all day, why didn’t he look for a job? Why is he so violent? All these questions are truly irrelevant. The question is NOT why did he do these things; the question is why did you ALLOW it? How many times are you going to ask these questions of a man who is not worth your presence? How many times are you going to let a boy treat you like a girl/slut/object instead of a Queen? How long are you going to stay in a relationship with a boy if you want a man? Or…maybe…just maybe…you have also forgotten what the definition of a man is.
I’m done.
What you got to say?
October 5th, 2008 at 4:16 pm
THIS IS A TEST
October 9th, 2008 at 2:13 pm
I agree with what you’re saying. I’m sure there are good men out here. My problem is that I’m too picky! I wouldn’t say that I need to lower my standards or anything, but I am very picky. And I can’t speak negatively about the women that allow their man to treat them a certain way because I am one of those women. I am single right now, but I have dealt with falling completely for a man and just letting him dictate my every move. I was stuck on the idea of pleasing my man when it should’ve been about doing me and making myself happy and letting him decide to take it or leave it. I am learning that you should never change for a man as a man will never change for you. The next guy that I fall for is going to have to accept me the way that I am.
October 10th, 2008 at 9:10 am
YES, AMEN….Instead of running around crying that he did this, he did that shit….Man and Woman up, look in the mirror and take the blame for what you did…focus on self and fixing self. Don’t be a monkey jumping from branch to branch….take time out and fix yourself before the next relationship. Figure out how to love yourself, because if you don’t know how to love yourself, how will anyone else know how to love you? If you don’t know what like/want/need how can you know if you are getting what you like/want/need in a relationship?
If you don’t, it’ll be
SAME RELATIONSHIP, DIFFERENT FE/MALE
(same shit, different day)
November 4th, 2008 at 12:54 am
I am so so very tired of hearing that there are no good men out here. There are plenty, the question is how do you pick your grapes. If you keep going after that same “juicy” looking, rich colored grape time after time you will continue to get the same result. Some women just don’t need grapes, rasins are just as good. It gets under my skin when a woman says “he is not my type”, I really feel you are going to miss out and you are short changing yourself. So what if he is short and your are 6ft tall. I believe GOD has a great since of humor, your perfect mate may be the total and complete opposite of what you are looking for. And besides just get it out of your head, there are no perfect men. You don’t deserve one until you become a perfect woman. Women, we must be teachers. First we must teach everyone we come in contact with, how to treat us. Our men, we like to think of them as strong, stable, Kings, Providers and all that jazz and they are but some still must be taught. Are you ready to love a man? It’s a journey. Do you know his past, do you know the relationships he had/has with his mother and his father. This all affects how he will love you. Men are just as emotional as women, unfortunately most do not communicate as well as women which makes their emotions hard to handle and thats why at times they seem so crazy or out of control to us. A relationship is a connection. Connection takes energy. You must work. Some get in a relationship and just relax and think love just happens. People put more work into booty calls than in relationships. Maybe we should treat our relationships like everyday booty calls and wash your ass, do your hair, look happy to see him every once in a while. I know a couple where the wife just come in from work mean mugging him. I can go on and on, but I will end here. Women we must be the teacher and the student which requires much patience.